THE SERVANT GENERAL
ASSAULTS ON FAITH, FAMILY AND LIFE
MARRIAGE AND IDENTITY CRISIS
November 23, 2018
The Western world has turned its back on morality and God’s
word, and now we all reap the consequences. There is much
inanity and insanity being accepted and promoted. Decide your
own gender, age and species. How ridiculous! But more and
more are accepting these things. We see the world and society
on a downward spiral, plunging into doom and perdition.
This is the work of the evil one. It is to be resisted vigorously.
and identity crisis
Redefining marriage, gender, age and species
by Lucien Tuinstra
Those who think that marriage is a covenant between one man
and one woman (until one of the two dies) need to think again.
That is, if you go by a recent ComRes poll. In an article
summarising the results, the UK’s Christian Institute
concluded that a “quarter of young people favour ‘phone-style’
marriage contracts”. A few key points of this poll are
24 per cent supported the notion of fixed-term marriage
contracts (and a much higher percentage want a low-threshold
2. 32 per cent supported polygamy (although this percentage
drops with age).
3. 30 per cent favoured ‘fluid arrangements’,
i.e. promiscuity (although, again, this percentage drops
4. 13 per cent backed bringing incest into the legal definition
of marriage (although 84% of all respondents oppose this
While these percentages are for older teens and twenty- somethings,
these views are not held solely by that age group. Significant,
although lower, percentages are found across the whole gamut
of ages. This, to me, means that these ideas do not originate
with the younger generation; they exist among older people
too. A moral standard will not disappear from society like
the flicking of a binary switch, i.e. on/off, but will, over
time, be compromised and eroded. Similarly, a rat will not
eat pure rat-poison, but will consume it if it is mixed in
with something that is good for food and pleasing to the eye,
obviously not realising it will lead to its demise. Every
journey begins with a small step; likewise, most lies begin
with a small negation or dilution of the truth.
Everyone did what was right in his own eyes
The Bible has much to say about what happens when people do
what they want, or in other words, what seems right in their
own eyes; and here I would like to draw your attention to
the book of Judges. This portrays a sad tale of moral decline,
interspersed by brief periods of deliverance of the people
by ‘judges’, raised up by God. The judges themselves
become morally degraded also, as the book progresses. However,
that is not the whole story. Shifting the focus from the judges
to the people, chapters 17 and 18 detail the decline in obedience
to God and an increased focus on self, people only adhering
to God’s rules when it suited them, and forsaking those
rules that they deemed inconvenient. It is a sorry tale of
the people going from bad to
worse as “Everyone did what was right in his own eyes”
Are we heading the same way?
The wise preacher Solomon says, “Is there a thing of
which it is said, ‘See, this is new’? It has been
already in the ages before us” (Ecclesiastes 1:10).
Ever since Adam and Eve sinned in the beginning (Genesis 3)
people have been choosing the
path of destruction, the way of self. What is good/pleasant
for me? Eve thought it, Adam did
not stop it but participated in it, and undoubtedly you and
I have often behaved this way too (Romans 3:23). Is it any
surprise, then, that as society
becomes more and more disconnected from God and His teaching,
as shown in the book of Judges, it is becoming more godless
and more selfish? Why should we marvel at
the poll results shown above?
Why are these youngsters thinking along these lines?
Personally, I have sometimes observed a lack of commitment
among people today (keeping your options open). Also, a throw-away
mentality (I will get a new mobile every other year, because
I can) is fast becoming the standard in our society. Is it
a mistake to think that these thought patterns can filter
through into other areas of life? Why is it that a higher
percentage of the younger generation wants to redefine marriage?
Scripture teaches, “Train up a child in the way he should
go; even when he is old he will not depart from it”
(Proverbs 22:6); fail to do this and we will reap the consequences.
It is one thing to point the finger at politicians; it becomes
a wholly different matter when we read
Holy Scripture and realise our own responsibility:
O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love
the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your
soul and with all your might. And these words that I command
you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently
to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in
your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie
down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on
your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.
You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and
on your gates” (Deuteronomy 6:4–9).
Elsewhere the ComRes poll includes the following statistics
from all age groups surveyed:
20 per cent believe that young people (under 18) should
be able to self-define their gender.
6. 35 per cent agree with permitting transgender individuals
to take part in sports competitions under their new gender
7. 32 per cent support those who want to self-define their
8. 19 per cent support those who want to self-define their
9. 10 per cent support those who want to self-define their
statistics make alarming reading. Regarding item 5, the Christian
Institute’s Colin Hart reported that, “the Equalities
Minister [UK Government] Penny Mordaunt has ordered an inquiry
into why there has been a more than 4,000 per cent increase
in the number of girls seeking support from ‘transitioning’
services in the last decade”.
Everyone agrees that some things ought not to be negotiable;
roller-skating around London on the M25 motorway for instance.
Likewise, if a child believes he/she can fly, we certainly
wouldn’t position them on the top of a tall building
and encourage them to be whatever they think they are. However,
there is another angle to items 5 and 6. Taking these together,
how many proponents with daughters would remain resolute when
it comes to assigning locker roomsand teenage boys insist
that they really are girls and should be in the girls’
dressing room? Time and again we are told that it is an offence
to point out the original gender of a transitioning person
(e.g. the 2002 Vine Christian Centre case). Rather, they say,
when somebody decides his/her gender is actually different
from their birth certificate, that must be accepted. Biological
facts and Scripture are ignored.
To be forever young (see item 8) would appeal to many, even
to those who are still young at heart. For instance, it has
just been reported that 69 year old Dutchman Emile Ratelband
wants to be legally recognised as 49. Apparently, “because
he feels he is being discriminated against by potential employers
and on dating sites, he wants to change his date of birth
to 11 March 1969.” Recently someone joked to me that
he was going to try it on the bus, to insist he was seventeen
and possessed a young person’s bus pass, and then challenge
the bus driver for questioning his assertion. Will this strategy
succeed? Given the bizarre logic that some use, it just might
in times to come. Or what about young teenagers suing pubs
for age discrimination because, having informed the landlord
they were 18+ (because that is how they felt), they were still
Regarding item 9, the scientific community is not crystal
clear on what defines a species, and it is not uncommon to
have more than one name for the same species. People have
a longing to be unique and special, so what better way to
express this (some may think) than by inventing your own species?
It does seem to tie in with what the Apostle Paul wrote, about
the glorification of self (the creature), rather than the
Creator (Romans 1:25).
Grounded upon Genesis
Without doubt, surveys like this one show that many
people are genuinely confused. Confusion brings
uncertainty, indecision and doubt, and is not a good counsellor.
When a society disconnects itself
from a moral rudder, the ship floats around aimlessly, and
will not be able to steer clear of looming danger.
This is precisely what many countries, including the UK, have
done, by shunning the book of Genesis, particularly its teaching
in the first eleven chapters.
Referring to marriage, and quoting from Genesis 1:27, Jesus
said that, “from the beginning of creation, ‘God
made them male and female’” (Mark 10:6); and He
also quoted Genesis 2:24 when He continued, “‘Therefore
a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his
wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are
no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined
together, let not man separate” (Mark 10:7–9).
Essentially, the ComRes poll results show that UK citizens
(or at least a number of them) want to re-define marriage.
In the UK and many other countries, the law has already been
amended to allow two women or two men to be married, but it
seems that this is not enough. Why limit marriage to two?
Why listen to God’s Word where it forbids sexual intercourse
with close relatives (or animals for that matter)? Why wait
until a spouse dies, when you could exchange for a ‘better
model’ in the short-term, without repercussions? Is
this the kind of society we wish to see? Apparently some do,
and while it is currently only a minority who think along
these lines, how long before it spreads and becomes mainstream?
Similarly, people may be horrified to hear about suggestions
to legalise infanticide; but many have already accepted abortion
as a valid means to rid mothers of unwanted babies. Infanticide
is only the next ‘logical’ step.
It is not enough to ‘tut’ at the outcome of these
polls. It is time to repent and for Christians to take a stand.
Stand on what? Stand on the true foundation of the doctrines
taught in Genesis 1–11, that mankind was created in
God’s image. Jesus did, so we’ll be in good company,
irrespective of what percentage joins us.