THE SERVANT GENERAL
THE WAY FORWARD IN CHRIST
HAVING A LIFE-GIVING HOUSEHOLD
July 24, 2015
Households are small pastoral groupings of members. They are
essential to the life and mission of our CFC-FFL
community. They are where members are cared for, and where
members are helped to grow in the Lord.
A household is led by a servant leader assigned to it. However,
every member of the household needs to take responsibility
for the good conduct of the household, and help ensure that
it becomes life-giving for everyone. If there is anything
amiss, household members should speak up and discuss the problem,
and together, under the direction of the leader, take steps
to change the situation. The leader, being a servant, must
be open and even desirous of such inputs, as a way of ensuring
that the household members themselves find the household life-giving.
What makes for a life-giving household? First
are the technical aspects.
(1) It must be regular. Household meetings are never
cancelled, unless getting to the meeting becomes physically
impossible, such as in the case of flooding. It must be
held at the same time and day of the week, so that household
members can put household meetings for the whole year in
their calendars, and protect that time.
(2) It must start on time. There is an arrival time, and
there is a starting time, about 15 to 30 minutes after.
Members should strive to be at the meeting venue at the
arrival time. This gives some leeway to unexpected traffic.
If one arrives early, then all the better, so that there
is some settling in and fellowship time. One does
not arrive and immediately jump into the worship portion.
The meeting should start on time at the agreed-on starting
time even if not everyone has arrived.
(3) It must have the three basic ingredients: worship, discussion/sharing
and fellowship. It must follow the prescribed times
for each aspect. Worship is about 30 minutes, discussion/sharing
is for one hour, fellowship is for 30 minutes to an hour.
Overall it should be from two to three hours.
(4) It must NOT become a service meeting. There are other
designated times for service meetings.
(5) It must end on time, and not too late in the evening
(if it is on an evening).  A household meeting certainly
should not spill over into the next day (that is, after
In all the above, the household leader must be the one to
ensure these happen. Members who violate the above must be
reminded and exhorted to do better. If they continue to do
so, they must be corrected more forcefully.
Secondly, what makes for a life-giving household
is the fraternal aspect. The household members
are brothers and sisters in Christ. They are journeying together
along the path of Christ, which is the way of holiness. They
have a responsibility, as they themselves grow in the Lord,
to help the others grow as well.
A relationship as brethren in Christ can mean a number of
(1) It is a relationship of love. Household members are
to love each other as Christ has loved them.
(2) There is fraternal correction. Such is not just left
to the household leader, but everyone else has the responsibility
to correct whatever is amiss.
(3) It is a relationship of friendship. Household members
should desire to grow in their friendships and to the ties
that bind. It should be such that they look forward to being
together for the household meeting, and eagerly anticipate
(4) It is a relationship of loyalty. Household members guard
their hearts from anger, resentment or the like. If there
is any personal problem, it is resolved quickly.
(5) It is a relationship of trust. Household members trust
each other enough to become vulnerable, such that they can
openly share their lives, especially their challenges and
shortcomings.  The principle of confidentiality is to
be strictly observed.
Thirdly, what makes for a life-giving household
is the pastoral aspect. We have households
so that we will grow in the Lord. The household, normally
being held in the church that is the home, is a school of
Thus a number of elements are important.
Worship should be alive and vibrant. Household members must
participate actively in the singing and the prayers. They
should be open to receiving and sharing words from the Lord.
They must have the faith to know that they are in the presence
of Jesus, and accord him the praise and worship that is
his due. Worship must have the basic ingredients of songs,
words from the Lord, and individual prayers of thanksgiving
(2) There should be serious discussion and sharing. Normally
the men meet separately from the women.
(a) For the first year, the discussions follow a specific
track, based on the teaching courses that are taken up.
(b) For the succeeding years, there is flexibility as
to content. It can be Bible sharing, personal sharing,
or discussion of a particular topic.
(c) For discussion of topics, there are many resources
available in the Church. In particular, the books and
writings of the Servant General  provide a lot of
topics that can be taken up.
(3) The household leader must strive to be a true servant
Finally, since the household meeting is basically a spiritual
activity, there is the needed spiritual preparation.
All members of the household, especially the leader, should
spend some time, before arriving at the household venue, praying
to God about the meeting.
(1) Ask God to bind any spirits that are not of Him, and
to send His angels to stand guard along your way and over
(2) Ask for wisdom and discernment.
(3) Be sensitive to whatever words (prophecy or inspired
scripture reading) the Lord might want you to share with
(4) Ask for the grace by which every member of the household
will be joyful and loving.
There are many life-giving elements in community. There is
our personal prayer and Bible reading. There are the many
teachings, formation tracks, and leaders training. There are
the assemblies and other activities. But the household is
unique in that the receivers are also the givers, and vice
versa. The household is thus the basic cell of community -
for formation, for fraternal relationships, for moving the
whole community forward.
 If there is a good reason, the household meeting date
can be moved, but enough time notice should be given to members.
 When someone is late, he often says it is because of the
traffic. Indeed there was traffic, but if you ask him what
time he left his home, you will see that he did not leave
early enough, especially in anticipation of traffic.
 It is possible to wait some more minutes, but not too
long, perhaps just 5 or 10 minutes.
 Unless the whole household meeting is just a time for
fellowship, which normally happens once a quarter, that is,
whenever there is a fifth day of the week in the month.
 If there is an urgent need, the fellowship portion can
be turned into a service meeting.
 In fact, the household members are not necessarily engaged
in the same service. Further, spouses are not part of the
service meeting, unless they themselves are also doing that
 For example, 7pm to 10pm. If members can meet earlier
and end earlier, all the better.
 When it is already the time of fellowship, those who need
to leave earlier than the rest should feel free to do so.
 While the household leader is the basic pastor, every
member, sharing in the priestly ministry of Christ, helps
minister to everyone else.
 It is not necessary to bare all secrets.
 What is shared in the household should not be shared
with others outside the household, unless what was shared
was a positive happening.
 Three songs, with two fast songs followed by praising
and then a worship song followed by singing in tongues.
 Prophecy and/or inspired scripture verses.
 Every member should be encouraged to say at least one
 This is very important. Only in rare times should
the men meet together with the women for this portion (worship
is of course done all together). This is basically so that
the men will grow together as men of God, and the women as
women of God. Men and women have different needs, and different
dynamics in relationships. Further, this allows them to take
up different topics for discussion and sharing.
 Using the Liturgical Bible Study (LBS) method.
 All members with email should receive the From the
Servant General articles. The territorial areas should
arrange for these articles to be passed on down the line to
 Let your other “bible” be the book Servant
This paper should be taken up for discussion in all households.
Then agree to work at the elements outlined above. Then look
forward to truly life-giving households.